When you go through a divorce there are many things that happen that are not within your control. As a counterbalance to this, sometimes it makes sense to make conscious changes where you can as you begin a new phase in your life.
Here are some suggestions of things you can change:
If you took on your husband’s name when you married you can change back to your maiden name fairly easily. The most convenient time to do this is while you are filing for divorce; let your attorney know as soon as possible that you intend to change your name. When changing your name, don’t neglect to alert your kids’ schools, the Postal Service and any professional registries you belong to.
Your credit cards
If you have never had your own credit line, now is the time to establish one. Open a line of credit in your own name; if you still have debt from your marriage, transfer whatever amount you still owe onto your own card.
Sit with your probate attorney and look over your will. Change your gifts, health care proxy, insurance beneficiaries and anything else that may be relevant.
If you have never worked outside of the home, have been out of the workforce while raising children or are simply looking for a new direction, this is the time to make a change. If you are in a position to go back to school, post-divorce is a great time to start a new career and rediscover yourself professionally.
Many people find they are no longer comfortable in their community after a divorce. While you need permission from your ex to move more than 50 miles away with your children, you don’t need permission to move to a new town or neighborhood where a bit of anonymity and a new start might be just the thing.
Relationship with your children
Divorce brings with it a host of new opportunities, among them the chance to be a more attentive parent. Make an effort to strengthen your relationship with your kids at a time when they need you the most.
A good divorce lawyer can help you with all of your legal needs, including a parenting plan, time-sharing arrangement, name change petition, relocation petition and anything else pertaining to your Buffalo-area divorce.
As a Buffalo divorce lawyer for 28 years, I have devoted myself to solving the problems that affect families throughout the Buffalo metropolitan area and Western New York. As a family law attorney, I make it my goal to create a partnership of trust with my clients. People put their trust in me to handle cases that can potentially have a long-lasting impact on not only their lives, but the lives of their family as well.
Alexandra M. Rockwood is a Senior Associate Attorney with the Law Offices of Randy S. Margulis & Associates and has been with the firm since early 2020. She primarily practices in the areas of matrimonial and family law, including divorce, child custody, and child support. Alexandra is a practicing matrimonial and family law attorney as…