Most people who divorce consider re-marrying at some point. According the U.S. Census study, most people who remarry after divorce do so within four years. If you are considering remarriage, there are a number of things you might want to take care of before taking the leap a second time.
First, speak to your divorce attorney to make sure there are no loose ends regarding your previous marriage. Review your agreement and finalize any details that remain. Once you have closed that chapter, it is helpful to consider the following:
Prepare your children – speak to your children about your intent to remarry. Unless the second biological parent is dead or absent, do not refer to your new mate as your child’s new mother or father. This places an unfair strain on the child’s natural sense of loyalty to both parents. Blended families are common and your children are likely to be familiar -and more comfortable- with the concept of stepparent.
Negotiate a premarital agreement – speak to your attorney about securing a premarital agreement. This serves the purpose of keeping all or some of your current assets and debts separate from your future spouse’s.
Consider the longer term – while you are planning your premarital agreement, take the opportunity to review your will, health care proxy and any other estate planning tools your attorney deems appropriate.
Jettison emotional baggage – speak to a therapist, either alone or with your future spouse about ways you can make changes and improve your communication skills for your new relationship.
Take the opportunity of a fresh start to learn from past mistakes. A skilled family law attorney can help you prepare for remarriage so the next marriage can last for a lifetime. Call the Buffalo Law Offices of Randy S. Margulis at 716.886.9600 or contact us online.
As a Buffalo divorce lawyer for 28 years, I have devoted myself to solving the problems that affect families throughout the Buffalo metropolitan area and Western New York. As a family law attorney, I make it my goal to create a partnership of trust with my clients. People put their trust in me to handle cases that can potentially have a long-lasting impact on not only their lives, but the lives of their family as well.
Alexandra M. Rockwood is a Senior Associate Attorney with the Law Offices of Randy S. Margulis & Associates and has been with the firm since early 2020. She primarily practices in the areas of matrimonial and family law, including divorce, child custody, and child support. Alexandra is a practicing matrimonial and family law attorney as…